Thigh High's & Thigh Gaps

I decided to title this post 'Thigh High's & Thigh Gaps' because I wanted to use this is an opportunity to address female body image whilst giving an insight into my own body insecurities. My thighs and I have a love-hate relationships. Let's just say the hate was real on the day these pictures were taken.
Believe it or not, Body confidence is not actually one of my strongest points. Don't get me wrong, I've never had an extreme problem with the way I look when it comes to my body, but I have had, and to some extent still do have a constant inward battle with accepting my body exactly how it is. Particularly my thighs. As mentioned above, we have a love-hate relationship. Sometimes I love how they fill out my clothes, other times it feels like they're filling out a little too much. Ever since I hit about 17 I've had this on-again off-again obsession for the thigh gap and every once in a while I'd have a "I wish I had a Thigh Gap" episode where I would sit and admire women with the thigh gap for hours on end and then before I knew it I would find myself googling things such as 'how to get a thigh gap' and 'workouts for thigh gaps' and 'thigh gap surgeries'. Yes y'all, I went that far. My thigh's aren't even the biggest pair of thighs out there but they were big enough for me to consider them annoying and undesirable.

I love a pair of thigh high boots as much as the next fashionista however I actually only own two pairs because of this insecurity. It was so real on the day these pictures were taken which is why I've decided to write about it for this post. I don't usually wear my shoes on the journey to location when I shoot, I usually just wear my ugg boots for the journey and then complete my look by changing my shoes once I am there. On this occasion however I decided to wear the boots to location because they are such a struggle for me to put on and I didn't want to struggle unnecessarily on the roadside in front of confused passer-byers. 

The minute I took 3 steps out my door I instantly regretted it. 


It wasn't that the heels were too high and it wasn't that they were too hard to walk in. The 'puffer jacket' material of these boots make it what it is and it caught my eye for this exact reason. However, it turns out that the reason why I loved it might just become the reason why I don't love it so much anymore. Because of the material, and the fact that my thighs come into contact when I walk I felt like the whole world could hear me coming - and not because of the sound of the heels but because of the sound of the boots rubbing together as I walked lol! I thought to myself 'wow Jessica, must the whole world know that you are coming?!'


It wasn't until I hit my early 20's that I decided to make an actual effort to embrace the 'I cannot come and kill myself' mentality when it came to my body. Before then, I had googled and googled and tried and tried (with working out and diet) everything possible to create the type of look I wanted for my body with much of the emphasis on my thighs. I remember thinking at one point during my time at university when I was the skinniest I've ever been, 'I still don't have a thigh gap'. Now I'm almost 25, nothing has worked and I still don't have a thigh gap lol. The only way this is achievable for a body like mine is surgery. The thought of that is literally what brings me back to reality to think 'it's not by force' and more importantly 'I can not come and kill myself for thigh gap'.

Being obsessed with all the beautiful people of social media definitely did not help. In the end I found that I had to part ways with following a few of them and find some other ones who's body goals were more realistic and attainable for me, because don't get me wrong; there is nothing wrong with choosing realistic and attainable people to be motivated and inspired by when it comes to body image. There's no point in me making someone with a thigh gap my body goals because quite frankly it is not realistic or attainable for me.


So now every time I see a woman with a thigh gap I am not too disheartened that I don't look like that. I can appreciate it and admire it because at the end of the day, I know that a thigh gap is not the only way to look amazing. How do I know this? Because like so many other women out there, I don't have one and I look pretty darn amazing, even if you can hear me walking down the street lol. I say all this to say girls, love yourself! Honestly, insecurities and all and find ways to celebrate your body. If you can change it, change it. If you can't change it, embrace it, work with it. There is actually so much freedom in embracing yourself and it just eases your mind from thinking you have to keep up with society tells you to keep up with. Another woman's beauty is NOT the absence of your own!

Comment down below if you can relate, what are some of you guys' body confidence/image issues and how do you deal with it? How have you overcome it?


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